Ahhhh... Orgasm!

There's nothing like a good orgasm to make the world look like a brighter place.

by Moira A. Richardson

Although sex with another person is often quite enjoyable, there are benefits to self-pleasure.

It's considerably less sweaty to orgasm alone. And you don't have to worry about how long you have to wait before you make the other person go home. You don't want to be rude, obviously, but after a while, you just need your space. You are more likely to actually reach orgasm if you are alone. There's nothing worse than being almost there when suddenly your partner collapses in a fit of pleasure and falls asleep, and you are left hanging. I think it's safe to say we've all been there.

When you are at the other person's home, gaining back your personal space is a lot easier. Take for instance, the following scenario:

"Ahhh.. oh god! yeah.. oh yeah.. oh baby don't stop.. don't stop.. oh yeah.. oh god yes! yes! oooooh yeah.. oooh. aaahh.. ooooh yeah.. well sweetie it's been great, but i have a lot of laundry to do this afternoon," she says, pulling on her lime green pants. As she pulls on her suede jacket she says, "well... yeah.. we've really got to do this again sometime." she walks out the door perfectly fulfilled leaving behind her dumbfounded partner.

That's probably the way sex should be. Just two (or more) people exchanging bodily fluids under the guise of mutual pleasure. You should be able to have sex with whoever and whenever you want. And I think that's how it is with guys. Guys don't automatically equate sex with love. So why the hell do women? It's hard not to, even the strongest women often falls prey to the allure of love. "We're fucking on a regular basis. It must be love." But it's not.. it's just sex.

But don't start freaking out. As the movie title goes, "Relax, it's just sex." Our bodies are designed for sex. Our reproductive system is the most driving force in our lives, whether we admit that or not. Every single woman has a vagina. Every single man has a penis. And in most cases, the primary aim to get enjoy the pleasures of the other.

Homosexuality is obviously not like this. But i believe that homosexuality is necessary to living creatures. I think it's natural, and I don't care if you like that or not. Homosexuality is seen in animals other than humans. Simple as that, I think it has an evolutionary basis in controlling population. I think a certain percentage of every population will exhibit homosexuality tendencies, and that this helps avoid overpopulation.

And also, if you are looking at it this way: sexual desires must be based on more than just the desire to copulate and make babies, though popular culture will have you believe that's the only reason. Sex is fun, and should be enjoyed. If sex was something that was purely mechanical, then i don't think that homosexuality would exist. And god the world would be a boring place with out flaming homosexuals. :)

So. I'm not suggesting that women start fucking everything that's willing nor am i suggesting that women, god forbid, start thinking like men. Rather, i'm suggesting that we start enjoying sex more. We need to stop using sex as a control or lack of sex as a punishment. It's just sex. We need to enjoy it. We need to recognize our feelings towards sex and start to question why we feel that way. A lot of things that we think have been unknowingly transfered to our minds through the media, through the influences we've had growing up.

Sex is a natural thing. But we tend to twist it into something unnatural. We teach our children that abstinence is the best way to prevent childbirth, but we forget that when we were young we had strong sexual urges. We tell our little girls that they need to withhold sex until after the marriage, but we don't offer any suggestions for alleviating those sexual desires she's feeling. We also neglect to mention that marriage is an old institution that has its basis in the ownership of women.

And we don't say anything to our boys about holding back from sex. We turn women who give into their natural sexual desires whores, but we congratulate men who have sex with lots of women. Why is this? Why do we continue to tell our children these things that we don't understand or agree with. Why shouldn't a sexually mature adult have sex? Why can't we raise children who are responsible enough to know their sexual limits?