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Question: I am a male, albeit a non-typical male. Most prevalent example: I am not out to bang anything with female anatomy. Because of this I have a hard time relating to other guys when we talk about relationships, and I find it hard to take any advice from any of them, since they seem to have had so many meaningless relationships (usually based wholly upon sex -- surprise).

I've been single as long as anyone has known me, so they're always trying to "help me out." The places that guys encourage me to go to "pick up chicks" are NOT places I would want to go to anyway (bars ... yay. places that smell bad and look and sound worse), nor would I want to associate with anyone IN these establishments, because that would say something about them which means we won't get along. I don't go to church, so I don't meet anybody there. I'm a late-night DJ and freelance musician, so I never meet anybody on the job. Since I was a teenager, I was waiting for a "real relationship." Something deeply personal, and worth waiting for and working with.

Now, in my twenties, having never had a girlfriend, I feel I may be leaving it a little on the late side, and I'm not sure where to start. So my question, briefly, is: Where are the good women? I look forward to reading the answer.

Answer: I too was a musician in my twenties so I seldom saw the light of day and met most of my "lovers" in the pubs. Still being single, obviously you are right about people who tend to spend every night in the clubs drinking LOL.

Is there some other interests you have such as sports or politics? I have found that meeting others in social situations where there is a common interest helps to break the ice during the introduction phase. Also if you have time to volunteer at your local hospital the nurses are rather hot.

Depending on where you live, the urban centres often have clubs like diner's club that meet weekly to sample the cuisine of the city. Food tends to relax people and it's also very erotic - or can be if one has basic table matters and a subtle approach. I hope this helps a bit. Good luck on your search.

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