BOOSTING YOUR LIBIDO
by Debora Myers/Ladyfire.com
Life's priorities can sap the life right out of us. We women tend to
prioritize our love lives to the end of the list, after everyone else's
needs have been taken care of-by us. Our society expects us to do this.
From an early age we are told to care for our families and homes and
now we must be the bread earners as well. Generally speaking, that would
be all well and good but far too many of the home responsibilities fall
on the woman, with few partners picking up the slack. When was the last
time you came home from work and sat in your favorite chair and had
your mate bring you a nice cool drink while he prepared the evening
meal? ÉCommunicate your desires! Ask for what you want!
Here are a few simple reminders of how to save some energy for our love
lives. By maintaining the intimacy and sexual contact with our mates
we are doing our families and yes, society a great service as well.
If we (and our mates) are happy and content, the children and those
connected to us will benefit in turn. Remember "An empty vessel cannot
pour" So keep your Chi, your life force and creative sexual energy fortified
with these tips.
1. Ask for help when you need it. Most of us (our egos) attempt to be
superwomen and we end up burnt out. Delegate some of the work to your
families and friends. Ask for help concerning any issue you have that
may be dousing your love life.
2. Stop attempting to please everyone. Just say No!
3. Feed yourself REAL food and get enough rest and exercise! Duh!
4. Do little things for yourself that make you feel sexy! For example:
Prioritize that trip to the salon; take that Tai Chi class; start or
finish that good sexy book, take the time to dress nicelyÉDo the things
that help you to love-you!
5. Masturbate, yes, to keep your fire alive you must keep the sexual
energy turned on.
6. Use fantasy throughout the day to keep your fire turned up, so you
are "ready" by the time you and your honey get together. It helps if
you are not starting with a cold engine! The biggest complaint many
women have concerning men and love making is that their men rush to
the finish line and are done before we women even have a chance to warm
up, or worse are just starting to get turned on and then-POW he's finished.
Big bummer! If this becomes a habit for him you need to gently talk
to him about it in a non-accusatory way. Some people end up closing
down the sexual energy when they are routinely left hanging.
7. Be open to new ideas and techniques, as your love life gets boring.
Never do anything just to please your mate if you are uncomfortable
with the idea. He may really be into having a threesome with you and
your best friend. Good luck. If you ask me, your just inviting heartache
into your life. Too risky. Instead, try some verbal fantasy stories
and tell him over the phone or in person! That should do the trick.
Research sexuality sites for sexy ideas.
8. Explore erotica. Women's erotica isn't only limited to romance stories.
Those can be very arousing, but if you require a stronger stimulant,
try reading harder erotica written specifically for women. I find most
of the men's stuff is just too disgusting for us gentlewomen.
9. Try out some of the new toys designed just for a woman's pleasure
in mind. There are many strap-on devices that stimulate the clitoris.
Experiment with different dildos and vibrators. Use it while you fantasize
and you will be ready for him when the time comes!
10. Last but not least- keep LOVE in your heart. Make sure you pay enough
attention to your relationship and do not let your problems go unresolved.
Built up grievances and resentment toward your mate if the biggest libido
killer of them all!
The best asset in your love life is to keep communication open. Keep
an open dialogue with your lover, that's the best aphrodisiac around!
Copyright 2002 Ladyfire.com/Impulse Media
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