The Task At Hand by Debora Myers/Ladyfire.com

It seems many of us have been given some whopping life lessons to learn this past year.

I called my friend the other night to cry on her shoulder about one of the hardest lessons I've ever had to deal with and she was in the middle of a crying session herself.

I've talked to several others going through some major issues lately as well. Myself, I'm having teenager problems and I have been through such a gamut of emotions that I feel absolutely rung out.

When life's blows are so hard that they knock us for a loop, how the heck are we supposed to deal with the everyday routine and the other folks that are depending on us?

I've written a lot about seeking help and being able to ask for it. But sometimes some situations require us to grit our teeth, dig deep and pull the strength needed to deal with the task at hand.

Instead of thinking about all of the what-ifs and all the things piling up that need attention and the immensity of those problems, I have learned to shut off the negative dialog in my head. Without the fears, hurtful possibilities and all the what-ifs trying to tell me what to do, I slowly start to focus on one small task at a time.

Even when it comes to simple every day things that become overwhelming, your problems will zap most of your energy. So I start with the little jobs first. Empty the trash. Move a load of laundry through. Make a list. (Lists always make me feel better.)

Basically work your way up to the harder tasks. Soon you will have the strength and courage to deal with the tougher and more challenging emotional issues. Keep chugging along, look at the glass half full, and soon you'll look how far you've come and say, "Wow! I did it!" and the world didn't end!

By taking care of the task at hand you will soon see a whole new world of positive and beautiful possibilities that are waiting for you just ahead.

A mother is not a person to lean upon, but a person to make leaning unnecessary. -Dorothy Canfield (1926)

Nothing else ever will make you as happy or as sad, as proud or as tired, for nothing is quite as hard as helping a person develop his own individuality especially when you struggle to keep your own. -Marguerite Kelly and Elia parsons (1975)

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