Reprogramming Your Subconscious for Ecstasy!
by Debora Myers/Ladyfire.com
We all want to have ecstatic sex with our beloved. It doesn’t
really matter how many physical techniques you’ve mastered
if the energy pathways in your electrical body have been blocked
by neglect, and/or years of abuse. Our subconscious puts up
protection measures and sometimes this ends up getting in the
way of the “Flow” needed to reach the highest of
highs that we are capable of.
Reprogramming your subconscious is not necessarily a difficult
thing to do. If you do consciously remember specific times in
your life where you were mistreated and abused then you are
"luckier" than if you buried them deeply within your
subconscious.. You won’t have to “dig” to
get to the memories. You can do the reprogramming yourself.
If you “suspect” that something happened in your
life (sexual, verbal abuse & subsequent negative programming)
but you cannot seem to remember, then seek out a therapist for
help in unlocking those old memories. If you remember specifics,
you may want to try these simple techniques. They work!
Place your symbols around your quiet, safe environment.
Empty your bladder. Get in a comfortable position, either lying
down or recline in a comfortable chair. You want to be able
to completely relax.
Body Relaxation: Close your eyes. Take three to seven slow,
deep breaths, inhaling through your nose and exhaling through
your parted lips. Starting at your toes, go through your entire
body and tell each part as you move upwards to relax. Relax
toes and feet, relax calves and legs;move upwards allowing your
commands or suggestions to flow up your body like a wave of
relaxing energy. Let the tension go completely. Continue breathing
deeply as you do so. Try to concentrate on your relaxation and
breathing. Let your critical thoughts go.
*To become whole healthy and a sexual dynamo then please be
patient and continue on with the exercises. Your entire Eros
is screaming to free itself!
Cleansing Breaths: Breathe in deeply through your nose and
exhale through your parted lips. Breath slowly and evenly. As
you inhale, consciously call in peace, relaxation, love, whatever
you want to “charge” yourself with. Breath in ‘peace’
and exhale ‘anger’. Imagine all the anger dissipating
from your body and mind. Imagine the peace flooding into every
aspect of your being. Repeat each particular breath (peace in-
anger out) at least three times. Replace the words with other
aspects you wish to delete and download. Examples: self love-insecurity,
joy-sadness, confidence-fear, worthy of love-unworthiness;I’m
sure you have the idea now.
Don’t try to go through the entire ‘list’
of everything you wish to change. Pick a few each day. You may
want to write them down first so you don’t freeze up during
meditation time. After you have become practiced, you can try
doing these at the desk at work etc. but never while driving;!!
You are entering an altered state of consciousness. Feel free
to repeat these affirmations as often as you like.
After repeating and breathing a few of these affirmations,
we will move on to the actual negative programs or ‘old
tapes’ placed in your subconscious by parents, society,
school teachers, other abusers;
For years I was flooded by a wave of guilt every time I climaxed,
because I was punished for touching myself as a child. As I
dug deeper into my subconscious I found that the excessive ‘exploration’
as a child was due to me being molested. I carried tremendous
guilt and shame with me for many years because of the abuse
and subsequent punishment. My life got so bad that I found I
could no longer fool myself. I had to confront those memories.
I have successfully abolished the shame and guilt I took on
as a child. The following techniques worked for me, I affirm
they work for you!
*I was not ‘healed’ in one or two sessions. Don’t
expect a miracle. I did reach out for help from my midwife,
holistic therapists and traditional psychologists. It has taken
years of ‘baby steps’ to get where I am today. They
key is that I continued until I got to this point; where I can
discuss this without feelings of guilt and shame and anger.
These exercises are a starting point.
After you have practiced the relaxation and cleansing breaths
you may want to move on to the next level. This can be a very
difficult exercise, so make sure you don’t have anything
important scheduled after your meditation. You don’t want
to have to go to a job interview or a parent-teacher conference
after you have started to tackle
your ugly ‘old’ memories. Even though the abuse
may have occurred 30 years ago;it is still alive and fresh in
your subconscious. Get a handkerchief or two, you will need
them. Inform a supporting family member or trusted friend that
you may need their support following these exercises.
Practice your relaxation and cleansing breaths. The first thing
you want to do is to talk to that little girl or boy that was
being abused. Visualize yourself as you were as a child. Notice
every detail. You will be standing outside of your child-self.
Your adult-self will be talking to your child-self. Sometimes
it’s easier to visualize yourself on the beach or in the
woods (anyplace you feel comfortable) and visualize the child
walking slowly up the beach ;toward you. Ask your child-self
to explain to you what is going on with her/him. She may say
she’s been a bad girl, or that she is being hurt;etc.
Let her talk! Then tell her that it is not her fault. Tell her
that she is a good person and that she is not responsible for
the harm done to her. Open your arms and hold her telling her
it is ok and that you love her. It may take several rounds of
this before you can calm her down. Don’t give up. If you
feel this is just way too much for you to handle alone, then
seek out help!
Help Resources:
Dr. Linda Savage, PH.D
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PH.D
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