Self-Touching Exercise
Freeing Yourself from Guilt!
By Debora Myers/Ladyfire.com

Inappropriate touching done to us as children can be the cause of a sexual shut down, making us unresponsive to any kind of sexual or nonsexual touch for that matter.

What do we do about it? We retrain our mind and body together to be open to
touch. If you were not actually molested, but are just experiencing difficulty because of societal or familial taboos concerning sexuality you can benefit from this simple exercise too. Do not underestimate the power of this exercise because of its simplicity.

Schedule a time for your “exercise” one to several days a week, depending on what you can arrange. Send the kids to grandmas, to friends or save their soccer practice time for your exercise time;. unplug the phone;

Shower or better yet, take a bath. Pamper yourself. Put out the candles, flowers, soft towels, oils, incense, creating an atmosphere of warmth and intimacy. Pick out relaxing or sexy music you can “groove” to. Take the time to take care of the little details that usually get overlooked or prioritized to the bottom of the list because you are busy taking care of other’s needs.etc. Be especially tender and gentle with yourself while bathing. Touch yourself as you would touch a lover. Start by stroking your arms and legs. Massage your feet. Rub your hands and then move on to your breasts, tummy and thighs.

You don’t have to think sexy thoughts at this point if you aren’t ready. You may just want to continue these exercises of self-intimacy for a couple weeks until you feel comfortable with being tender to yourself. When you get out of the bath or shower pat yourself dry and take the extra time to apply lotion or powder or whatever you like.

If you are comfortable with yourself during the bathtub time then go to the next level. If not, and you couldn’t wait to get it over with then move on to doing something for yourself like fixing a nice cup of herbal tea and sitting in the patio to hear the birds singing etc. Even if it’s only for a few minutes, take some time for yourself to relax, read, write in your journal, paint;.