The Threesome- How Far Would You Go?
The subject of the threesome is high on the list when people
are discussing their fantasies. Some simply want to be exciting
and adventurous, hoping to spice up a long-term relationship
and some are simply curious. But think long and hard about going
through with this slight deviation from the norm for a sexual/sensual
thrill. Again, sometimes flirting with the idea is exciting
enough. Reality is just that-reality. Before inviting your new
swinging girlfriend to your marriage bed, consider the following:
Are you prepared to come home from work to find your friend
in bed with your husband? Once a couple has entertained a third
party, they may be opening the gates for one of the partners
to think it is a-ok to play even when you are not around. I
don’t care how “free thinking” you are, the
first question to hit your mind is, “am I not hot enough
for him anymore?”
Humans are jealous by nature. Jealousy is a component deeply
imbedded in our primal minds. Do you think you can simply evolve
from being jealous just because you wish to spice things up?
If your sexual relationship needs a boost, maybe you best not
introduce someone that may end up getting the attention you
are attempting to get. It can work both ways! It may backfire
on you.
STD’s-
Are you willing to risk catching a sexually transmitted disease?
As we read last month in the Conscious interview, even if your
new friend is usually lesbian, she is still capable of carrying
HIV! Those risks rise when entertaining another man in your
bed that swings both ways. If you just really want to invite
a third party in, be darn sure you are practicing safer sex.
There is no “safe” sex these days. A rubber can
break; a dental damn can slip;especially in the heat of the
moment. Is this a risk you want to accept into your marriage?
Tease and Titillate
We discussed a few of the risks of inviting another party into
your marriage bed or relationship. If you really want to liven
up your sex life with your life partner, but have thought twice
about the risks, then here are a few ideas to help spark it
up in a less threatening way.
Talk About It
Create a sexy ambience. Make sure you have the candles or fire
burning, the lights are low and you both are snuggled into your
love nest. Quietly start telling him your threesome fantasy
as you entice your lover further by touching yourself in all
the right places. Don’t dive right into full on masturbation
and explicit details. You want to build the desire and stretch
it out. The more fuel you add to the fire the hotter and longer
it will burn! Take your time, adding little details etc. Use
your imagination and build that erotic desire, then move to
gently touching him as the story unfolds;.
The Magic Vibrator
If your threesome fantasy involves adding another man to the
picture, enlist the help of your favorite vibrator. The lifelike
types are especially helpful. Most guys are very sensitive to
visual stimulation. As you tell your story, or as he shares
his fantasy with you, use that toy!
You may also want to pretend that you are being loved by two
guys at once and use the vibrator to simulate another man in
the picture while your man makes love to you. Have several dildos
for different “jobs”: Don’t mix up your toys,
keep your bacteria and viruses to yourselves! You may want to
perform fellatio on him while using the vibrator on yourself.
You get the picture-use your toys to help in your fantasies.
Watch Threesome Movies Together
What more do I need to say? The most difficult thing to overcome
is getting over the embarrassment of going in the roped off
area of the movie rental place. Watch these for stimulation
of ideas and for a good ole’ fashioned turn on. Just going
in together and picking it out can be titillating, exciting
and humorous. Oops! There’s that righteous neighbor in
the S&M section!! She’ll never be able to call the
cops on you again for your loud music. You’ve got something
to hold over her head now!
By using your fantasy creatively, you can add some extra stimulation
to your sexual repertoire and stay safe at the same time.
Have Fun & Be Safe!
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